Stop Being Afraid of Your Kids!

Hi.
So let's get this straight before I begin my rant. I only have 1 child, 2 technically but my little boy is in heaven. I am a 24 year old mommy and definitely NOT perfect. I have made mistakes, but don't we all?! This isn't about me being an incredible mother, it's about what I've witnessed and learned . All my life I have been around kids, and babies. I have a huge family, and  I have a lot of amazing role models that have taught me to be the woman and mom I am today. So here goes...

WHY?! Are parents these days so freaking terrified of their own children?!? For heavens sake! Stop it! It's perfectly ok to say NO! They're not going to grow up hating you. You absolutely do NOT have to buy your child a toy out of every store you walk into! Oh they're pouting? Boo freaking hoo. Oh they're throwing a fit and people are staring?!? So what? Hi! Take a picture it'll last longer. I'm currently teaching my child that she can't have everything she wants by freaking out in the store.
Seriously, the brattiness and temper tantrums should draw you even further away from giving them what they want. Oh and when you leave the store and they start acting bratty afterwards or do something bad, it's ok to take away what you just purchased!

Be consistent with your disciplining! Or in some cases, START disciplining. Oh they're gonna get mad?!? They won't like you anymore? For what? A few seconds? Ok. Fine. Oh well.
Ever think that maybe the world is going to crap because parents are allowing their children to become self indulged brats?!? YOU ARE THE PARENT.

My biggest pet peeve now as a parent is that parents REWARD bad behavior. Aww they're crying/whining... Here honey play on Mommy's phone/iPad/tablet. (I admit I have made this mistake before, and realized what I was doing was wrong.)  Media/technology the things they have for kids now is insane! And they love it, which is why it should be a reward for being well behaved. You were really good in the store today, when we get home you can have the iPad for 20mins. Etc.

And stop jumping up the second they get hurt to kiss boo boos and baby them. If they're crying and bleeding, by all means tend to them. However, if they're whining for attention and you clearly can see they're not hurt. STOP. Let them be kids, let them climb the tree, let them play in those play areas at the mall, let them play sports, be in gymnastics, let them make noise and let them get hurt. Guess what?! When school begins their teachers aren't going to be there to kiss boo boos and scoop them up off the ground. In the real world, nobody will be there to pick you up when you fall, so let them dust themselves off.

I've seen first hand what lack of parenting and disciplining does to people. They grow up and think everything should be handed to them on a silver platter. The lack of parenting is what caused these "grown ups" to believe they're entitled to everything they want.
Kids are selfish, they only think about what they think they need. It's my job as a parent to teach them to be kind, to be mindful, to be courteous, and loving. Teach them how blessed they are to have the things they already have, because frankly some kids don't have anything. Teach them to give. Teach them to treat everyone the same. At the end of the day, if my daughter grows up to be  all these things, I'll know I've done my job . Oh and it doesn't take toys, clothes, shoes, and money to become these things either.

STOP TEACHING THEM THAT THEY ARE THE WORLD,
AND START TEACHING THEM HOW TO BE PART OF THE WORLD.